It’s easy to find reasons to say “no” to new experiences. Personally, I have to hype myself up with taking two toddlers (that could possibly melt down) out while 9 months pregnant. It’s a lot of work just to get them out of the door!
But, we can’t let the “what if’s” stop us. What if they melt down? What if one runs in the opposite direction? What if we have a potty emergency? The possibilities can seem overwhelming!
Mama, don’t let these intrusive thoughts stop you. You have to just get out there, get comfortable with being uncomfortable & just do it!
Make Saying “Yes” Easier.
Make the play date or choose the event and put it on your calendar. That’s the first step. Then decide what you need to prep before you get to that day.
Personally? We fill up my gas tank every pay day. By doing this, all I have to worry about is getting to my destination. I also always keep my “diaper bag” full. Does everyone have a spare set of clothes? Do we have burp rags for the occasional mess? (Yes, burp rags still serve their purpose for my three year old!) Most importantly, are there enough snacks?! If yes, we are ahead of the game.
Finally, I prep myself. I set an alarm early enough that I will wake up before my earliest riser and get dressed. I personally feel more confident and have better days with my makeup done, so this alarm is important. I wake up, get my coffee, and put on my face. There are no melt downs stopping me from feeling my best!
Prep Your Toddler
I can’t hold myself accountable by myself. So, I let my toddler know our big plans the day before. This is just enough time for him to get excited while understanding it’s not a “right now” thing, but something to look forward to. And, he will 100% remind me I said it was a library or play date day when he wakes up first thing in the morning.
While I might bring it up the day beforehand, I always remind him at bedtime. “Tomorrow we have XX planned. So I’m going to need you to listen to mommy. We are going to eat our breakfast, get dressed, and then go to XX.” That’s all he needs and he’ll jump out of bed to say, “Library day,” or something similar.
Throughout the morning, I remind him, “Hey, we are doing XX today. Let’s get downstairs to eat breakfast. Then we will get dressed and leave.” Getting out of the house still takes forever with two toddlers, but I feel like letting them know every step helps. . . A little.
Expect something to go wrong and. . . Be OK with it!
Even with all of the prep work, nothing is ever going to go perfect. That’s the beauty of parenthood. Instead of stressing about it, embrace it. Remember that no one is judging you and most likely have been there, themselves.
For example, we recently went to a newer “Playschool in the Park” hosted by Little Lights Playschool. My 3 year old is very shy (thanks pandemic) and has emerging speech skills. So, when the activities started with story time, he chose to stay on the play ground and look sad with a buckle lip. He refused to tell me what was the matter! While I was on a jungle gym trying to talk to him, my 1.5 year old realized mom wasn’t next to him and started crying! Uh oh!!
I ran down to grab my 1.5 yo & eventually coaxed my 3 year old down with “Do you want to build a snow storm?” He happily played and tried every hands on activity that Little Lights Playschool provided. He was absolutely obsessed with the fake snow (and we even were able to take a small bag home for him to play with!)
I challenge you to say “yes!”
What activity or outing have you been wanting to take your toddler to, but haven’t because of whatever excuses? I want you to stop saying no and say “Yes!” with my action plan.
- Pick your event or activity and put it on the calendar.
- Pack your bags, choose your outfits, whatever you need to do to make the morning of A BREEZE.
- Prep your toddler by telling them about your fun activity.
- Follow through & have fun.
- [Also, remember to B R E A T H E if it doesn’t go *just right*.
Tell me what you’ve planned in the comments below! I would love to hear about it!